It sounds like he's impossible to talk to, and that's a real shame because it leaves you with two shitty choices. Seems like you can either The "positive A) Adjust the budget to accomodate his habits, regardless of what he says he or won't do. You know what he does and you can work around it without resentment, just out of, you know, and stuff. or B) Get counseling/mediation to help him communicate with you and get agreement or understand